What I Heard In My Mind & Heart

Last night Mt. Biking with my husband, he was "helping" me by giving me pointers and telling me what I was doing wrong. At least that is what I heard in my mind and heart.

It made me feel mad, uncomfortable and lack confidence. We had to talk it out because I was so upset I was about to give up biking completely.

Then today I played tennis with someone I had never played with, so my inner voice was once again telling me I wasn't good enough, but sure enough every time I looked at my partner, she had a big smile and words of encouragement and I did the same for her.

It was awesome and we all played great! I changed the narrative in my head, told myself, "you need to be confident, you've got this, be more aggressive, you CAN do this!" And then randomly one of the other women yelled out, "Never Give Up." That became our mantra for the Match. What a great Team!

Here at the Club I have a great Team, too. I have never felt so confident about them all. Some of the people that are working for me are young and I pride myself on helping them navigate their job. I know it is not easy and I must remind myself to take time, help them prepare, give them confidence, feedback and teach them that they can be decision makers and they CAN do it and to Never Give Up!

If you have ever felt you weren't good enough, you lacked confidence, remember, positive self-talk and surrounding yourself with a great Team can always help! I have also relied on our Personal Training Team; they remind me that I cannot replace tennis for a weight workout, I need to do both!! I hadn't been preparing for tennis, I had been replacing one thing with the other and that significantly reduced my confidence.  I am back on the work out wagon and some of you will see me in the gym preparing for Mt. Biking and Tennis! Now that builds confidence!

Support of a great Team, preparation, practice, investing energy in your goals, working hard, even taking advice from a parent, spouse or partner can really help to build confidence

~ Michelle